Top dating tips with the help of science

Happy Valentines Day! To celebrate, here are ten scientifically-supported 59-second dating tips to increase your chances of finding and keeping the love of your life...

14th February 2011
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Love at first fright

You may think that going somewhere romantic on a first date is good, but in fact you are better off choosing somewhere scary. Research shows your date will attribute their racing heart to you, rather than the scary activity, convincing them that you are the one. So, avoid country walks, and instead go to a horror film or on a rollercoaster ride.

The sharing game

Research shows that disclosing some personal information during a date quickly leads to feelings of intimacy. Ask your date to describe something they have always wanted to do or one of the happiest days of their life.

Lust or love?

Is the guy you are with interested in your body or brains? Studies suggest that if he is interested in you as a person then he will lean towards you when you are speaking and nod and smile. However, if it is simply lust at work he is more likely to stick out his tongue and lick his lips.

Disagree then agree

Most people think constant head-nodding on a date is a winning strategy, but research suggests this people are more attracted to those who start off lukewarm and then become more positive towards the end of the date.

Agree to disagree

Rather than chatting about topics that you both like, try talking about things you both dislike – people feel closer to each other when they agree about dislikes rather than likes.

Fake a genuine smile

Although authentic and fake smiles involve the sides of the mouth being pulled up, only a genuine smile causes crinkling round the sides of the eyes.

Keep him hungry

Recent research shows that hungry men rated heavier women as more desirable. So, if you are female and “traditionally built”, go for a drink before a meal, not after

Use others!

Women rate a man as more attractive after they’ve seen another woman smiling at him, or having a good time in his company. So, if you want to impress women in a bar or at a party, ask a good female friend to come along and openly laugh at your jokes, and then have them quietly slip away.

The power of touch

If you want someone to find you more attractive, touch them very lightly on the upper arm as you compliment them. But remember, the touch has to be short, constrained to the upper arm, and delivered at the same time as a compliment or request.

Write all about it

Partners spending a few moments each week committing their deepest thoughts and feelings about their relationship to paper boosts the chances of them sticking together by over 20 per cent. Such ‘expressive writing’ results in partners using more positive language when they speak to one another, leading to a healthier and happier relationship filled with love.


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